I’m really not talking about articles I’m talking about real life. And besides movies from people’s youth that that they took the wrong way, nobody is teaching women to look for rich men. People in the real world aren’t telling people not to settle either. They think they’re single because they’re too picky or something is wrong with them. First of all not many rich men exist. Secondly, as for the ones who do, I’ve never had one interested in me nor have I ever been interested in one. I know women who have married men with “good jobs” but not rich. Getting that out the way, what most women are experiencing in the real world, is people, particularly parents and older relatives who want grandkids/believe that marriage=a real life and happiness IS people telling them that they are running out of time. Even if they don’t outright say settle, that pressure is what makes women, and some men, settle. Also, like I said, I can’t speak for rich men because I don’t know any. But being poor does not make a man a good man. It could have the opposite effect because he’s resentful and struggling financially. Women are no where near what they’re painted to be—at least women I know. Women want men who are emotionally intelligent, safe, trustworthy, loyal, kind. Etc. And making a low wage definitely doesn’t make a man any of those things.

Women aren’t looking for rich men. Women are looking for men with some damn sense who want to commit. Women shouldn’t settle for these emotionally immature or unemotionally unavailable men who can’t communicate, or who are mean or abusive, because they feel they’re running out of time or can’t do better.

Also to settle or not to settle comes down as a valid concern, for some people, when they don’t feel passion for a person who they otherwise care for, respect and/or have love for. Some will not settle with this person because they don’t feel that spark. Some will say this is the right think to do. Others will say it’s not because love will come in time. That is quite the conundrum.